As much as you may enjoy porn, watching it a lot can be toxic.
When you watch porn all you see is one type of person usually: Either a built hairy muscle white guy or a smooth skinny white guy. Most of the porn only represent fit white guys. There is no diversity.
The message being sent is “If you are Black, Brown, Asian, overweight, Not masculine, or disabled, you are not sexy. And you don’t deserve to feel sexy. All you are good for is watching and buying their product.”
This way of thinking reflects in the gay community as well. Guys online are great for making others feel bad about themselves because they don’t fit the racist, ableism, body conforming standards the porn industry dictates to us.
Thats why I don’t get down with all that’s out there. I don’t need to drool over someone else to feel good. I do me quite well. And you should learn to also.
Next time you are horny, don’t turn on the porn. Just focus on yourself and learn what it’s like to discover your own sexy.
you're right, but i learned how to have sex, first of all through porn.
ReplyDeleteOH yes ! Porn has taught me plenty of things as well. I've gotten some pretty erotic points from watching porn. I do believe though that excessive amounts of it is not good for anyone psychologically. Lately porn stars have become more abusive in sex. And just like we have all learned some good points in porn, I see a plethora of guys and girls as well being abusive toward their partner's or wanting to be abused and it's become like a rape culture. That's not cool. And also; (I know for many people who are not of color; This will totally go over your heads.) But imagine going online. You are ready to get your rocks off. You see this video of two hot Black guys going at it and you think it's hot but you check to see what else is on the site you're on. EVERY single person is Black not one hot white stud. You think, oh well. I'll just see what else is out there. As you come across all the blogs on your favorite blog lists, you see that there are no bodies that are Caucasian. And everyone has pretty much the same body type. You decide you want to go online and chat with someone but all the profiles are Black. There are a few good looking white guys on line but they aren't interested in you because they are only interested in Black guys. This scenario plays out day after day for ten years. You're frustrated because you're horny and you just want to mingle but because you don't have the body type or the skin color that everyone is falling over for; you don't get the time of day. This is what it's like in the porn industry, the gay dating world and even online when you blog for the next 10 years. How do you think you would feel after about 10 years of "Sorry just not my type" or "No fat's no fems no Whites." Or "I'm really not into White guys; No offense." I can't predict what you may do or how you would feel but I believe that after 10 years of watching these beautifully chiseled black men having the hottest sex with each other while all you can do is watch because no one is interested in you. Why? Because you're not "Like them." You may find yourself somewhat frustrated. You may even feel like you're not sexy. I don't know. I am not you. But I know how it would make me feel because I've been there. And I don't expect many of my followers to understand the scenario I played out But this is how many people of color feel and a lot of it has to do with media and what type of eroticism is available for these groups. And no. Too much of that message in one's mind is not healthy for them. We can even take race out of the equation and the situation of Self body shaming will still pose an issue due to the constant subliminal messaging of having the "perfect body" to be accepted.
DeleteThere are many reasons why I take short hiatuses. One big reason is because I know first hand how damaging too much porn can be Especially for a person like myself that walks in the opposite flow of traffic.
keep in your mind that I have always preferred to have sex with real men and that not even the pandemic has stopped me in the search for REAL sex!
DeleteYou can feel free to whip that slab out at any moment friend!!!! I put white denim on.......
ReplyDeleteOH my Friend I have a slab for you ! Don't worry. I got you !
DeleteOh, you're talking my language now. In fact, until you learn to do you, you can't do anyone else very well at all.
ReplyDeleteI am a firm believer of that. People make fun of and laugh at masturbation. But the truth is No one can do you as good as yourself. and don't get me wrong. Sex with a partner is fun. But if you can't enjoy yourself You're not going to be able to do anyone else much better . just like you said. I am a firm believer of exploring you body. And I believe that sometimes doing it without porn is the best way to really connect with yourself.
DeleteAll good points Mark! What makes a guy sexy comes from within (nice double entendre?) ....and knowing who you are, Mark, makes you one fucking sexy dude!!!.(not to ignore the really decent, creative human being that is quintessentially your essence as well)
ReplyDelete..and when you pose like that? All aspects come together making one fucking hot image!!!
Love that photo. Screw porn... gimme some of THAT. I don't look at porn vids much. They leave me cold. When I do? I look for the real amateur stuff with real men and real bodies. And I am always seeking out men of color (as in life). All that over lit, white background, white twink crap? Spare me. I'd rather do the dishes. Kizzes.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back Mark. It has been a while. Yes too much porn is not good for you mentally and physically.
ReplyDeleteI replied you a while back, not sure you ever saw it.
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I'M so sorry.I will check my messages today. I will chat with you.I hope all is well with you.
DeleteI agree although I love porn I too have been learning to just enjoy me
ReplyDeleteI’ve even made my own videos for fun lol. I was lying in bed the other night after a good douche and pulled out one of my vibrators and just enjoyed the sensual felling of my own body. Hitting the pspot a few times enjoying every stroke of the toy for awhile before even touching myself. Watching the different stages my cock made through out until I could no longer bear not to climax just from the way I made myself feel. Enjoy you and the other perfections that have been made for all to enjoy no matter the shape size disability color we are all beautiful.